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This is a continuation of last Friday’s Question of the Week:

“If I understand what you are saying here correctly, it is not the individual beliefs so much that need to be questioned (as you say they may come and go), but the root of belief itself - that which grasps for security.”

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Quick Thoughts - Delayed Recognition

By takuin | December 12, 2007

The other night, I was on the train with Akiko. We may have been on the Yamanote line, coming back from her work. She told me about her day. I listened.

I looked out the window and could see the people standing on the platform waiting for the next train. As the train pulled out, leaving those people behind, they slowly became blurs. Just a mixture of paint on a palette.

I looked around inside of the car, and it was packed with people. There was no discomfort or nervousness within. Even though people were everywhere, and every time you took a deep breath you could taste them, nothing within told me it should be any different from what it was.

And you COULD taste them. The sweat, the smoke, the over-powering perfumes. But that wasn’t all. You could taste their nervousness, their need to be alone, their need to have private space on a train that was completely full. The energy in that car pulsed and screamed to be let out, but I could not join it. All I could do was see.

I turned to Akiko and said, “I’m in Japan, huh?”
“Yes. You just noticed?”
“Yes,” I said.

I had no way of knowing where I was.

There is knowledge, of course. I know where I live, and I can get around anywhere in Tokyo. I know my phone number, and Akiko’s phone number. But thought doesn’t interfere with what is happening around me.

Even though I sit in my kitchen as I type this, I do not know I am in my kitchen.

Let me go slowly.

In order to know something, I have to have a memory of it. Otherwise, I cannot know it. I can only know things based on the past. I can never know anything in the present. I can only have memories of the past invading the present.

How is it possible to know someone or something when there are only memories? It is accurate to say that while I have memories of knowing something, I can never know it. How is it possible to really know something?

I may go to school and study a subject until there is nothing more to learn, but does that mean I know it? Or is it simply, I have memories of what I have studied?

To know implies that it is finished, and never again will it breathe new life. It is essentially dead. Can something really be known, or can there only be memories of knowing?

This is important to see for yourself. If you say you know your wife or husband or partner, is that true? You have memories of them, sure. But do you know them? If they are known, then they are doomed to be unchanging. You have to decide on a final design before you can claim to know anything. Is that what you really want? To say, He or she is this way, and that is it! You essentially strangle the beauty out of your so called loved one.

Some say that to know means direct perception. But the word really means to recognize. And you can only recognize what you already know.

Direct perception implies that you see without interference; that what you see is directly connected to you. Direct perception is to see beyond what you have known.

It is not that you become connected to what you see, but what you see is you.

There was a delayed recognition on the train. I sat in the silence, and for whatever reason the thought, “This is Japan,” arose. It was understood, and that was all. Even so, I still didn’t believe it.

I had to ask my wife if it were true.

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Quick Thoughts - Effortless Living

By takuin | November 30, 2007

Everything arrives immediately. But there is no wish or desire to keep anything. The mechanism is broken, and now, arrival and departure are a simultaneous movement.

But to qualify this existence with arrival and departure is not quite right, either. Although one might argue that no time is involved, i.e., “You either arrive or you don’t, you either depart or you don’t,” there still seems to be the element of time and thought that is present in that definition.

To be clear, everything happens and there is only being. Time is not involved. If Takuin arrives or departs, it can only be known by another. Time cannot be placed here by this organism.

When I walk down the street and look around, it is not as if things arrive from somewhere. It is not coming in through a filter, and there is nothing gradual. It is just there.

But, I do not know that it is there.

If I see a cat, it is obvious to knowledge that a cat is present. But to Takuin, there is no cat. There may be a living organism, and there may be movement, but I cannot know what it is. Once I know it, knowledge is there. This is not necessarily a bad thing, but once knowledge is there, the only thing I can see is my memory.

In order to know something, knowledge and thought must stay with it. There is no way around this. If you look at a cat, all the while knowing it is a cat, then do you truly see the cat? If you could see the thing, not knowing anything about it, how might it appear to you? How would it move you?

To keep thought with everything one sees is such a drain to the mind. There is constant power put in that direction. It is energy used to generate this field of time that keeps images pushed to the front of perception. Why is it there at all?

If you see someone walking toward you at the other end of the street, are you with them at each moment, or can you only see them in relation to how long it will take them to reach you? Why is there such an importance placed on the projection of time?

To see without time, is seeing without effort. To live without time, is living without effort. That is the expression of life, in each and every moment.

You are all already there. The only thing that stops you is the thought that you are not.

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Tilopa’s 6 Words of Advice

By takuin | November 28, 2007

The following words are attributed to the 11th century Buddha Vajradhara, Tilopa.

  1. Do not remember the past;
  2. Do not predict the future;
  3. Do not think about the present;
  4. Do not analyze;
  5. Do not control;
  6. Rest.

There are, of course, a number of translations, but the above encapsulates what most people will find on various Buddhist related sites.

However, there are a number of problems with this particular translation. On the surface, it might seem to be good advice, and it is, really. But the problem of how to approach the whole thing arises. It might seem to imply that one can think about the present, for example. But is that true? Can one think of the present in the first place?

Let’s go into this one by one, and in the end, we will see if there is a more appropriate translation we might use.

1. Do Not Remember the Past

If the past could not be remembered, and if memory could not be utilized, I would not be able to type these words. I wouldn’t know how to get to my house. I wouldn’t be able to speak or relate in any way whatsoever.

The only way the past can be brought about is through remembering. It does not show up of its own accord or have a vibrancy of its own. We must remember in order to utilize the past, for better or worse.

This might mislead people into thinking that they can forcibly “forget” the past. To repress those things that the self wishes to avoid. But this kind of avoidance only attaches us further, because there is always energy present pushing away at the item of repression. This will keep you connected to it forever.

2. Do Not Predict the Future

This one is rather confusing. The only way to know the future is through the past. We invent what might be, through what we already know. There can never be a “new” future, because the mechanism we use to create it is the “old” past.

There is the tendency for everyone to put their image of what should be on top of reality, but that is not really predicting anything. It is just a fantasy based on one’s prejudices and preferences.

And besides, if I do not remember the past, I cannot predict the future.

3. Do Not Think About the Present

Is it even possible to think about the present? Can we think in terms of anything other than what we already know? I need knowledge and memory - the past - in order to think, don’t I? If that is true, how can I think about the present? It must always be thought of in terms of the past, because that is the medium of thought.

This could mean the projection of thought onto the present moment. But it is rather vague, and leaves one running in circles trying to not think about the present. Of course, if one is projecting onto reality, then there is no present moment. There is only the thought that keeps you out of your natural state of awareness.

Besides, is there even a present moment? Once we solidify the present into a moment, doesn’t that effectively kill it? Can the present be captured at all? Can the present ever be known? Again, knowing would imply the past. Can the past and the present ever meet?

4. Do Not Analyze

This is a very important point. If one is analyzing, there is always a separation. There is always the analyzer, and the thing to be analyzed. It is a subtle way of locking one into a dualistic way of thinking.

Once we start to analyze, we believe ourselves to be separate from the thing under analysis. If I am greedy, and I try to analyze it, it is always me and the greed. We will never be able to realize that we are the greed. It is always us looking at something else.

This is an important point to consider for yourselves: If you analyze, what is it that is doing the analyzing? And in what way is it different from the object of analysis? See it for yourselves.

5. Do Not Control

Another very important point to consider. It is essentially the same danger as number 4. When we wish to control, it is always the controller and the thing to be controlled. This separation and conflict can never bring peace to a human being.

Control only keeps you attached to the thing you wish to be away from. But can you really be attached to it, or rather, are you it? You will never see it for yourself as long as you believe there are two separate entities at work, i.e., the controller, and the thing to be controlled.

6. Rest

An important point. And it not only pertains to physical rest. But our minds need to rest as well.

Human beings are in a constant state of mental fatigue, due to the wastage of energy over our problems. I am greedy, but I shouldn’t be! Think of the great energy required to keep that illusion alive.

In the case of should, you see the situation, but cannot come to terms with what is happening. You create a should in order to better deal with it. But the should requires so much energy that you will never see the reality of the situation. It always keeps the energy wasted in a state of flux.

There can be no peace in a mind that divides itself.

Seeing the thing as it is, or the self for what it is, releases such a surge of energy that it is hard to believe that the human body is capable of such power. When one gives up the need to be different from anything, it is like being reborn into a powerful machine of infinite energy.

(I don’t mean to qualify it, because there is nothing infinite about humanity. But having that energy released for the first time is completely beyond the experience of what you know.)

Other Interpretations

One of the better translations can be found on the Wikipedia page for Tilopa. I won’t go into it, as you can do that for yourselves. Here it is:

  1. Let go of what has passed
  2. Let go of what may come
  3. Let go of what is happening now
  4. Do not try to figure anything out
  5. Do not try to make anything happen
  6. Relax, right now, and rest

These are better than the original translation I presented at the beginning of this article, as they more directly touch what is going on. However, one might become closer if one thinks of allowing these things to occur instead of letting them go.

Go into it both ways and see what comes of it.

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Relationship - Part 2

By takuin | November 20, 2007

This is part two of a post on relationships. It comes from this question, asked by Nur:

“But what if the goal is to be in a relationship, to get married or find love? What then? How do we make love or marriage happen?”

You can find the Part One here: Relationship - Part 1

Are you able to relate with another person in the way you want them to relate to you? Are you really interested in the relationship, or are you trying to placate loneliness, or some other feeling? These are important questions to ask oneself. What is it that you want, if anything, from a relationship with another person?

So many people are in relationships out of habit. They stay because it is predictable. They think it would be too much trouble to meet someone new. But are these really relationships? Is there a life being lived? Or are they just going through the motions, so to speak.

Some enter relationships out of habit, as well. It is something that we all do, so why not? Or, It is expected of me, so I should. But what is really there? Can any expression come out of this kind of static living?

Others enter relationships in order to avoid, or smother, their own loneliness. They are motivated by the fear of being alone. There is no desire to really relate, or share with another person. They just want to silence their own pain.

If there is a starting point to all of this, it is to understand what is within you. Ask yourself, Why do I want this? Is there a center that projects your desire? Or is it because you wish to share your light with someone else?

I very much hope that you can find a person to share with, but first, know what is inside of you. The answer is already there.

Relationship is not about ONE person

I am not talking about promiscuity, bed-hopping, or anything like that. The way you relate to one person is in no way different from the way you would relate to another. The only thing there are your memories and preferences. Ask yourself now; Is there a type of person you want to be with? Why is there a type of person? I am not saying it is right or wrong. Just ask the question. Are the reasons you give in any way real? What is behind it all?

This is not about being submissive, either. It is not a matter of just taking whatever comes your way. It is a matter of seeing other beings as they are.

Understand that being in a relationship is not about getting something. Real relationship is not about what you want. If you get in a relationship just to have it, then what have you gained?

Akiko and I were talking the other day. She started a new job recently and had an interesting conversation with her female co-workers. Somehow the conversation steered toward relationships, and the question came up, “Do you argue?” We don’t, and her answer indicated as much. Her friends may have been incredulous, but in the end, found no reason to think she was lying.

It is true. We do not argue. Why would we argue? It doesn’t make sense to me. Of course, we do not agree about everything. And in fact, we do not share the same interests. Certainly there are many things we both like, but the important thing is, we can enjoy ourselves in any situation. There is never a feeling that we should be doing anything else other than what we are doing.

If I had the thought, “Man, Akiko should be interested in this. It is so wonderful,” what would happen if she was not interested? I would be in conflict because I believe she should be. I would only be hurting myself, trying to create my projection of reality. The same would be true for her.

We do not have the same interests, but we are interested in each other. I am happy to hear about what she does, even if I have no interest in it. When I say, “no interest,” it does not mean that there is anything actively against what she does. There is not a thought about whether it is right or wrong. It just is. And I am happy to be a part of it.

Does that make any sense?

The List

Some people find it valuable to make a list of the things they would like to have in a partner. I have never found it necessary, as I am no longer looking for anything. But even before the realization I did not do it. However, if you have never done it before, you may find some value in it, even if it is just clarifying what is going on in your head.

Sometimes writing things down can take weight off of the mind.

I have said before, there is nothing wrong with goals, and having your dream and pursuing it. Having a goal of meeting a great partner may help increase the focus that is needed to bring it about. But you have to be careful. The more you want something, the easier it is to be fooled.

If you want the right man/woman because you think it will somehow complete you, you are headed in the wrong direction. You are already full and complete. Perfection is there, so share it with everyone.

Relationship is Life

Do you want a relationship to feel that you are really living your life? In other words, will the relationship somehow allow you to begin living? Or is it that relationship is constantly occurring at every moment of your life?

Is the goal merely to be married? Because it is too easy to do. Most people put more thought and energy into the wedding, than they do the marriage. It is easy to see the results of that.

Does one need to be married in order to relate? Some might think that the marriage isn’t real, otherwise. But it is only a matter of cultural or societal concern. One needs to know what it is to relate to another, before one worries about marriage.

Be Alone

One of the best pieces of advice I can give is to be alone. Remove yourself to a favorite habitat, preferably outside, sit, and get to know what it means to relate to what is around you. Quiet yourself and see what is really within. You have to find out for yourself. No one else can give it to you.

Being alone has nothing to do with loneliness. And it is not about isolation. Only the self can be isolated, and it has nothing to do with one’s surroundings.

Sit with yourself, with no expectation of what you will get or how long it will take. Do it for the sake of the doing, and nothing else.

If you want to find a wonderful person to share your life with, I am sure you can do it. But you must be serious and think deeply on the matter. You have to take it all the way to the end.

All I can say is, when you are there, it will be clear to you.

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Quick Thoughts - The Beauty of Life

By takuin | November 9, 2007

There is an incredible and immense beauty to life. From a bird, to a flower, to a rock buried in a stream. In movement, vibrancy, or stillness, all that we need to learn surrounds and penetrates all of us. There is nowhere to go find peace, as freedom and enlightenment are already here. It is everywhere.

But we do not know how to look.

And how is one to look? To really see is to be non-interpretive. The thing, whatever it happens to be, is seen, but there are no conclusions; no voice nudging and convincing us that there is something wrong or something different.

No fear is found here. Trying to make it happen is hilarious to me. I try my best, projecting thoughts to awaken fear, but it is all so silly. I have to smile, because it is just a dream. It is something that can never touch this organism.

This beauty is not born out of comparison. It is not something that is known because we compare it to something we find ugly. Beauty exists for everyone on this side of the curtain. It is a natural extension of life; the breath of the universe. As the lungs breathe air, beauty breathes life and life breathes beauty.

There is no need to take it, as you already have it. Do whatever you do, and that beauty is there. Just don’t expect any outcome to seeing. The eyes are sensory organs and nothing more. Use those organs and forget about everything else. Your mind cannot compare to the living beauty that surrounds you.

Find the beauty that is breathed each and every moment. It is always there.

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Belief and Death

By takuin | November 6, 2007

This afternoon a young girl jumped off the roof of the Tobu Department store to her death. She didn’t hit bare ground; she landed on another person. She died at the scene, and the person she landed on was rushed to the hospital.

I was there a few hours after it happened. Television crews were there, doing whatever it is that they do best. I waited across the street, watching people and inquiring.

What belief did this young woman have that caused her suicide? What was so bad that necessitated the ending of her life? What reality was impossible to reconcile?

None of that exists here, so it is difficult to imagine. There are memories of the struggle and the sorrow, but it is out of focus and grainy. It is not here. In some way, it seems like watching a 10 inch black and white television, with little to no reception, on the other side of the room. An old memory that cannot touch or be touched.

There have been suicides in my life, of people that I loved, and the resulting emotions were heavy and disturbing. On one level, the individual wants to feel guilty, “I could have done something, had I been there.” That thought tears one apart, and is itself, impossible to reconcile.

And on another level, the individual seeks the attention that drives their grief. This is not necessarily a conscious thought such as, “I am going to really cry so my Dad will pay attention to me,” but the self drives it forward to some end. In this same area is the thought, “How could she do this to ME?”

So terribly terribly destructive.

When I was 13 years old, my 14 year old best friend had an argument with someone in his family and was sent to jail. I don’t know if he was sent there as a, “We’ll teach him a lesson this time!” kind of thing, but he went anyway. I remember thinking that I should go over there and say something, but it seemed silly in some way. And also, it would have been embarrassing for him.

It was his second day there, I think, and he strung up the bed sheet as a noose and hung himself. They found him some time later.

I remember the pain was staggering. I can see that little boy in my mind, torn apart with grief. It was a terribly chaotic time as I recall. It hit us all pretty hard.

I carried that around with me for twenty years. It was not a constant thought, but I never could let it go. I thought about it every week, even up to November 30th, 2006. But on December 1st, everything changed. There was no more grief, and I was able to freely reconcile everything, in one fail swoop. (Of course, I didn’t realize it at that time, because reconciliation isn’t noticeable until thoughts arise. The word Reconciliation is not quite right, as there is no-one to reconcile anything, but it is close.)

During the summer of 2007, I went back to my hometown for the first time in almost ten years. I went to the cemetery to see my friend. I had a few things to say.

“I don’t know if you need to be forgiven for anything. But I DO forgive you, and I am sorry that I couldn’t let go of you sooner. I am certain that I kept you for so long because I didn’t know how to let go. It was a way to feel connected to you, even though you were gone. I couldn’t let go because of ME, and not because of you.

“So, you are free. I will always have the memories, but I no longer NEED them. Peace be with you.”

I left there, and never went back. In more ways than one.

I hope the parents of that young girl remember the good things. Remember the love they shared and the life that was here, even though it left so quickly. And I sincerely hope they can let her go for their own sake. It isn’t their fault.

Peace be with them.

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Apparently, Takuin is Going to Hell

By takuin | October 22, 2007

I remember watching the stand-up of Rowan Atkinson some years ago. The one sketch I can easily remember was of him portraying the doorman to hell, as it were. He greeted all the new entrants and grouped them up accordingly and explained their fate. (Ooh, I found the video HERE) 

All of the Christians were in hell because, according to the devil, “The Jews were right.“ 

At the time, I wondered, if that were real, where did I fall on the scale? Of course, I was a teenager at that time, as near as I can recall, and those were the kind of questions I had back then.

Testing Your Fate

I took a test a few minutes ago called, Dante’s Inferno Test. I am a Heretic (apparently), and the afterlife does not look too good.

Here are the results.

Sixth Level of Hell - The City of Dis

You approach Satan’s wretched city where you behold a wide plain surrounded by iron walls. Before you are fields full of distress and torment terrible. Burning tombs are littered about the landscape. Inside these flaming sepulchers suffer the heretics, failing to believe in God and the afterlife, who make themselves audible by doleful sighs. You will join the wicked that lie here, and will be offered no respite. The three infernal Furies stained with blood, with limbs of women and hair of serpents, dwell in this circle of Hell.I am also moderately violent, gluttonous, and lustful, so in other words, a well rounded human being.

The Dante’s Inferno Test has banished you to the Sixth Level of Hell - The City of Dis!
Here is how you matched up against all the levels:

Level Score
Purgatory (Repenting Believers) Very Low
Level 1 - Limbo (Virtuous Non-Believers) Low
Level 2 (Lustful) Very High
Level 3 (Gluttonous) Very High
Level 4 (Prodigal and Avaricious) Moderate
Level 5 (Wrathful and Gloomy) Low
Level 6 - The City of Dis (Heretics) Very High
Level 7 (Violent) Moderate
Level 8- the Malebolge (Fraudulent, Malicious, Panderers) Moderate
Level 9 - Cocytus (Treacherous) Moderate

Take the Dante’s Inferno Test

Lustful and gluttonous? I guess I can go there. At least I am only moderately violent.

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The Importance of Finding Out for Yourself

By takuin | October 19, 2007

There are a multitude of gurus and anti-gurus out there. All of them, it would seem, have a way, a method, a system to follow. ”If you do these things, enlightenment, freedom, moksha, will be yours. Just follow what I say. Sit in this position, chant these words, silence your mind, control your thoughts, and freedom will appear”.

How many of us do these things? How many of us sit, exhausted, on the cushion, trying to get what others have told us is here? Does anyone listen to what we are told and then question it all?

In the past, I wondered why that was the case. Why do we follow without question? Why do we keep going from one to another, only to be left in the same place?

Now, I see clearly what has, and is, taking place. The cause of my own stupidity is clear to me.

Is it clear to you?

At the end of the day all I know is, I have heard what they told me, I listened intently, and read tirelessly. Then it was all cast aside, and I found out for myself. No, not for myself; it was revealed, and I could do nothing about it. It arrived whether or not I wanted it.

It arrived despite all I did to make it happen.

Don’t try so hard. Let life happen.

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Tokyo Update

By takuin | October 10, 2007

Just a quick update for those of you regularly checking-in. I am now “officially” moved-in to my new place in Tokyo, but still have no internet access. It should be connected tomorrow afternoon, if all goes well. From that point on, I will be back to the regular posting schedule.

It has been more difficult to access the internet than I thought. I guess one would think the internet would be all over the place in Tokyo, and that is true, but in order to install it into your house you need anywhere from two weeks to one month. For Akiko and I, it will be right at 15 days.

I am still writing, and am looking forward to getting back to this tomorrow night.

See you all tomorrow after plugging-in.

Takuin

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Relationship - Part 1

By takuin | October 6, 2007

I received a question from Nur on relationships and love (on the Goals post).

But what if the goal is to be in a relationship, to get married or find love? What then? How do we make love or marriage happen?

Can one make love happen? Or is it something that is there, regardless of what we do to it? Is it something we have some control over, or is making love happen the same as making breathing happen?

What about marriage? Getting married is easy. Staying married poses some difficulty, according to statistics, but I think you are asking a different question. I believe you are asking about finding the person one might spend the remainder of their life with. (Hopefully, I didn’t mis-read what you asked.)

I got married on July, 7th, 2006. Even though I am married to Akiko, there is no difference between how I relate to her and how I relate to the rest of the world. How can there be a difference?

I can hear cries of protest already. “How can you say your relationship with your wife is no different from any other relationship?” Very simply, relationship does not change. Relationship is relationship. If you think differently, that relationship differs from person to person, then what you describe is not relationship but your own prejudice and preference based on memory.

If my relationship with a person is different from my relationship with the rest of the world, then which one is false?

We are not talking about how well you know someone. That is altogether different. Relationship is not based on the action of memory. You might think that you can only have a relationship with someone you know, otherwise how can there be a relationship? But if that is how you perceive things, it is quite possible that you have never had a relationship with anything.

Let me be clear. The way one normally thinks of relationship involves interaction between people that are known; how you communicate, if you like them, if they like you, if there is, or is not, sex involved, etc. “I have a good relationship with my father. I have a bad relationship with my brother. I am in a relationship with a new man/woman.” And so on. That is NOT what I am talking about.

It might seem like a mere semantic difference, such as, “Instead of using the word ‘relationship,’ I use XXX,” or whatever. But I have seen the action of what other people call “relationship,” and I question if there is anything there at all. Why? Because human beings do not relate to one another. Look at the world and see what is there.

I love my daughter, but I’ll be damned if she is going to marry an Arab!

My son is in a relationship with a great girl. Thank god she is white / black / catholic / republican.

Americans should have the jobs in America. I’m not racist, but I hate Mexicans. (I actually heard someone say that.)

None of this is relationship. It is all based on prejudice and belief. Nothing is there at all, other than one’s thought about how things should be.

Is relationship the result of memory?

You know many people, I am sure. But is it that you “know” them, or rather, you have memories of knowing them? There is a difference here. If you know someone, then they are static and unchanging. They are forever doomed to be the image you have of them. The knowledge you store does not change. It is not living or dynamic. It is just there. 2 + 2 always equals 4.

In the same way, if you meet someone that hurts you, aren’t they always “the person that hurt me”? It gives them no room to change. They are always a jerk in your mind, even though they might have changed in one hundred ways since you last encountered them. Your version of the person freezes out any chance of reality. You can only see your image, or memory, of the person, and never the real thing.

If someone flatters you tremendously, or does all kinds of things for you, don’t they become that kind of person in your mind? Just because one memory is more pleasurable than the other, you still freeze out reality. When you build up an image based on your experiences, can you ever see the person for what they are? Or do you only see the structure that passes for the living human?

If you drive around with someone and they are reckless, is it that they ARE reckless? Or would it be more accurate to say, they have been reckless? Perhaps they were reckless in that moment, but how can we possible know that they ARE reckless? It is an impossibility. As soon as you say they ARE, that freezes out the possibility that they can be anything else other than reckless.

If you say your boss is an asshole, is that true? Is there any possibility of it being true? You would have to stay with your boss everyday until he or she died to know if it is true. Don’t think that this is a mere mental exercise in positive thinking, because it isn’t. Quite literally, the brain believes everything you think. If you say something IS so, with conviction, then that is it. Your boss is doomed to be an asshole for all eternity.

(I know I am taking the long way around your question, Nur, but I am getting there!)

Part 2 can be found here: Relationship - Part 2

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