Very nicely said…

Carrying those wounds can also be damaging to the physical organism. I am sure you’ve probably experienced the additional pain and discomfort of that sort of thing.

It is a destructive system of support….

I am thankful to have met you, and very glad we could both take part in this little project.

But it’s a starting point for me to think about – that this wound we think we have does not really exist.

The non-existence of the wound may be the truth, but we always begin with what we have. If one is truly hurt, whatever that means, they begin with that apparent hurt. Even if a guru tells us there is no one there to be hurt, we must have a look to discover if any of it is, in fact, true.

Thank you, Daphne. I look forward to hearing from you again…

So, we could say forgiveness is the finishing move, so to speak? The movement of resolution?

Feels safer…yes, that is it. Of course, it isn’t safer, but it is too difficult for them to see beyond their fear of loss. A fear of loss of continuity (the thing that sustains them, or gives them some weight or apparent reality) even if that continuity is deadly.

When we know that everyone–everyone–does the best they can under the circumstance of conditioning, there is nobody to forgive and nobody who can forgive.

We stop resisting. We let go.

I carried (and nurtured) my wounds to instill guilt in others and a sense of moral superiority in myself. My wounds never existed except through my choice to experience them to support my ego.