The Wound of Forgiveness

This post is a group effort of sorts. A few other writers are posting on this same topic of Forgiveness today. Links to their sites and articles follow at the end of this post.

On the Beach

Junko asks:

What happens when someone hurts you? How does Takuin forgive a wound?

The way you are using the word Forgive, in order for forgiveness to flower, there must first be a wound of some kind. Something that hurts me in some way that I carry around for whatever reasons.

I will not deny the suffering of another; that someone might carry around events heavily in their mind, torturing themsleves day and night. But you asked Takuin the question, so let's see what comes up.

(For this discussion, I'll use the word Forgive as you've used it above.)

The Wound

We can call the result of physical damage a wound, as it can be measured and observed in the physical world. You can certainly hurt this body; kick it, stab it, destroy it, or otherwise impede or slow its physical functioning; but that is an extremely limited and insignificant action.

Physical wounds do not require forgiveness because it has nothing to do with Takuin. You might hurt this body physically, and effect it for years to come, but that is as far as it goes. Nothing carries over.

But what about a wound beyond the physical? How can you forgive that?

Is there a wound that is beyond the physical?

You might tell me, someone said this or that, and it wasn't true, and it hurts me badly. Where is this wound, and whom does it hurt?

I am not trying to build up an ideal world for you where people carry nothing with them; no hurtful words, devastating events, or whatever. I can only express how it unfolds within this organism.

There is no wound beyond the physical. What is beyond the physical can never be hurt by any word or event. It doesn't cause a stain, leave a mark, or become scabrous over time.

Liberation, the truth of what you are, oneness, or whatever you might call it, cannot be hurt, nor does it desire to be free from hurt. There is no messenger to carry the message, and no construct to house it in.

This is not a matter of ignoring anything, or turning your back to the world. If you do indeed have some pain from memory, open the door and greet it at once. Find out if it actually holds any weight whatsoever. Find out if it is anything more than eloquent hearsay.

To Forgive

As I mentioned above, this is not to deny any pain you might feel within yourself, and I would never try to convince you otherwise. But why do you need to forgive?

It might sound like a silly question, but why? Is it for the other person? Is it for you? Only you can answer this, as no one else can know precisely how you are functioning from moment to moment.

Do you want to forgive in order to be free of pain? Or do you forgive so your life might have some stability and structure, even if that structure is destructive?

If you don't mind, I'll tell you a small personal story. Have a listen...

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For her, forgiveness was just a tool to get what she wanted more than life itself; to not be alone.

What is Forgiveness to You?

I know there are other definitions of the word Forgiveness, and different faiths might interpret the word to mean something entirely different from the way we've used it today. But Forgiveness, as we've been using the word, arises from the wound, from the pain, from the hurt.

If there is no wound, where is forgiveness?

What is Forgiveness to you?



A few other writers took up their pens (or keyboards) to write on this same subject today. The initial idea was to all write on the same topic, but with our own unique expressions. I am sure these other contributions will be wonderful and well worth your time to check out.

Albert Foong at Urbanmonk.net - Our Innate Innocence – Reflections on Forgiveness

Tom Stine at Tomstine.com - There Is Nothing to Forgive

Daphne Lim at Joyfuldays.com - The Gift of Forgiveness

Davidya @ In 2 Deep - Deep Forgiveness

If you want to join in, please leave a comment below. You can also write your own article on forgiveness and link to it from the comments. I'd love to read what you have to say on the subject.

Enjoy!